While most of us dream of a co-parenting relationship that involves mutual respect, understanding and kindness, this often is not the case.
When one is going through a divorce, you believe that this is as bad as it’s ever going to get. You hope that if you can just get through this, then all will be right again in your world. I told myself this. Everyday.
So many clients come to me and say “How could he/she be surprised that I want a divorce? I have been telling him/her for years that I am not happy!”
We all want our kids to thrive and none of us want our kids to suffer the effects of our choices. So how do you ensure that you can always take the high road?
When you’re divorced or divorcing, co-parenting can make any situation worse if you let it. Co-Parenting through and post divorce is like a dance, only the steps and footwork aren’t pre-written.
how can we focus on the beauty of the season when our reality consists of dividing up our time with the kids and potentially fighting over every little detail of what used to be a special time.
Each night my kids dread the question, “Do you have any homework?” and I dread the answer. I think that homework is more stressful as a parent, than it was as a kid. Why?
It seems endless and insurmountable at times, but time really does hold magical healing powers, but only if you allow yourself time to reflect, heal and move forward.
One area that can be a source of tension during with your co-parenting partner, can be the subject of money. Your kids’ money. Who manages it? Who makes decisions about if/how/when your kids spend it?
Co-Parenting is a fine art when you’re a happy, functioning couple. You both bring to the table your individual experiences, values, and expectations.