Reconstructing Happy https://reconstructinghappy.com/ How to Use Your Divorce as an Opportunity to Build a Better YOU Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:16:53 +0000 en-CA hourly 1 I Want to Become the Person I Would Marry https://reconstructinghappy.com/i-want-to-become-the-person-i-would-marry/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/i-want-to-become-the-person-i-would-marry/#respond Mon, 30 Mar 2026 14:13:51 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=3011 This week, a client said something that really stuck with me: “I know I’m not ready to date… because I want to become the person I would want to marry.” And I paused because that’s it. That’s the work! Not rushing to get back out there. Not proving you’ve moved on. Not filling the space. […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/i-want-to-become-the-person-i-would-marry/feed/ 0 Stop Chasing “Fair” https://reconstructinghappy.com/stop-chasing-fair/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/stop-chasing-fair/#respond Wed, 04 Mar 2026 14:31:16 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=3005 One of the first things I hear from clients is, “I just want what’s fair.” I understand that instinct. When a relationship ends, fairness feels like the minimum requirement. It feels rational. Grounded. Justified. After years working as a divorce, coparenting, and mediation coach, it is my opinion that fair does not exist in family […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/stop-chasing-fair/feed/ 0 You’ve Hired a Divorce Lawyer – Now What? A Step-by-Step Guide to What Comes Next https://reconstructinghappy.com/youve-hired-a-divorce-lawyer-now-what-a-step-by-step-guide-to-what-comes-next/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/youve-hired-a-divorce-lawyer-now-what-a-step-by-step-guide-to-what-comes-next/#respond Fri, 09 Jan 2026 16:55:02 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=2999 Hiring a lawyer can feel like a huge relief. After weeks or months of uncertainty, you finally have someone “on your side.” It often feels like the moment things should start getting easier. But for many people going through separation or divorce, that relief is quickly followed by a new wave of questions: What happens […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/youve-hired-a-divorce-lawyer-now-what-a-step-by-step-guide-to-what-comes-next/feed/ 0 Starting the New Year During Divorce or Separation: How Coaching Can Help https://reconstructinghappy.com/starting-the-new-year-during-divorce-or-separation-how-coaching-can-help/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/starting-the-new-year-during-divorce-or-separation-how-coaching-can-help/#respond Thu, 01 Jan 2026 20:26:40 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=2996 Starting a new year is often associated with fresh starts and optimism. But when you are going through a divorce or separation, the new year can feel emotionally heavy, uncertain, and isolating. If you are navigating divorce, separation, or co-parenting, it is important to know that you do not need to feel positive or “moved […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/starting-the-new-year-during-divorce-or-separation-how-coaching-can-help/feed/ 0 5 Red Flags That Tell You Your Separation Is Draining Your Energy https://reconstructinghappy.com/5-red-flags-that-tell-you-your-separation-is-draining-your-energy/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/5-red-flags-that-tell-you-your-separation-is-draining-your-energy/#respond Tue, 16 Dec 2025 18:13:31 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=2986 Separation doesn’t just change your routines, your home, or your family structure—it affects your energy in powerful and often invisible ways. Many people don’t realize how deeply the separation process is impacting them until they hit a wall: burnout, emotional exhaustion, or a sense of being stuck in survival mode. If you’ve been feeling unlike […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/5-red-flags-that-tell-you-your-separation-is-draining-your-energy/feed/ 0 High-Conflict Separation Isn’t a Legal Problem – It’s a Communication Problem https://reconstructinghappy.com/high-conflict-separation-isnt-a-legal-problem-its-a-communication-problem/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/high-conflict-separation-isnt-a-legal-problem-its-a-communication-problem/#respond Fri, 12 Dec 2025 15:56:41 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=2980 When a relationship breaks down and conflict escalates, most people instinctively turn to lawyers. They assume that if things are “high-conflict,” then the only solution must be legal intervention, formal agreements, or court-imposed structure. But here’s the truth that often surprises people: High-conflict separation is rarely a legal problem. It’s almost always a communication problem. […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/high-conflict-separation-isnt-a-legal-problem-its-a-communication-problem/feed/ 0 You Don’t Have to Be Okay Yet: The Emotional Reality of Separation https://reconstructinghappy.com/you-dont-have-to-be-okay-yet-the-emotional-reality-of-separation/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/you-dont-have-to-be-okay-yet-the-emotional-reality-of-separation/#respond Thu, 11 Dec 2025 17:33:32 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=2977 We live in a culture that moves quickly. Make a decision. Move on. Stay strong. Pull it together. But separation doesn’t follow that timeline—and neither does emotional healing. One of the hardest truths people face during a breakup is this: You don’t have to be okay yet. You’re not supposed to be. Separation is a […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/you-dont-have-to-be-okay-yet-the-emotional-reality-of-separation/feed/ 0 Why Finding the Right Divorce Lawyer Is Crucial—And How I Help My Clients Do It https://reconstructinghappy.com/why-finding-the-right-divorce-lawyer-is-crucial-and-how-i-help-my-clients-do-it/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/why-finding-the-right-divorce-lawyer-is-crucial-and-how-i-help-my-clients-do-it/#respond Thu, 31 Jul 2025 11:03:22 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=2969 One of the most common mistakes I see people make early in their divorce is rushing to hire a lawyer without considering whether that lawyer is the right fit. You’re overwhelmed, you need answers, and you want to protect yourself—but this decision is too important to make in panic mode. As a divorce coach, I […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/why-finding-the-right-divorce-lawyer-is-crucial-and-how-i-help-my-clients-do-it/feed/ 0 How I Work Alongside Your Therapist as Your Divorce Coach https://reconstructinghappy.com/how-i-work-alongside-your-therapist-as-your-divorce-coach/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/how-i-work-alongside-your-therapist-as-your-divorce-coach/#respond Mon, 28 Jul 2025 11:11:23 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=2972 If you’re working with a therapist during your divorce, first of all, I applaud you. Prioritizing your mental and emotional well-being during such a life-altering time is one of the most powerful decisions you can make. And if you’re wondering whether you also need a divorce coach, or if coaching overlaps with what your therapist […]

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]]> https://reconstructinghappy.com/how-i-work-alongside-your-therapist-as-your-divorce-coach/feed/ 0 How to Make Smart Divorce Decisions by Managing Emotions: A Divorce Coach’s Guide https://reconstructinghappy.com/how-to-make-smart-divorce-decisions-by-managing-emotions-a-divorce-coachs-guide/ https://reconstructinghappy.com/how-to-make-smart-divorce-decisions-by-managing-emotions-a-divorce-coachs-guide/#respond Thu, 24 Jul 2025 14:55:26 +0000 https://reconstructinghappy.com/?p=2965 Divorce is one of the most emotionally charged experiences a person can go through. Hurt, betrayal, grief, and anger often take center stage, making it difficult to think clearly—let alone make decisions that will affect the rest of your life. But here’s the truth: when emotions drive decisions in divorce, the outcomes are rarely in […]

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